Meet Nicole Antoinette! Nicole is the host of the Real Talk Radio podcast, where people come together to talk about the wonderful mess of being human. A recovering self-help addict and former goal-setting coach, Nicole’s current projects explore how we can use grit and grace to close the gap between what we say we want and what we actually do.
Nicole recently chatted with our very own Jacki Carr! Check it out here!
What rocks your bliss?
Laughing with people I love. Feeling like I belong. Pushing my limits. Proving to myself that I am strong and that I can do hard things. Being kind with my words - not complaining, gossiping, or criticizing (easier said than done!) Staying true to myself instead of caving into the role society wants me to play. Keeping things simple. Remembering that we’re all just doing the best we can.
Describe your perfect day.
Hiking, reading, cats, and cake.
Ha, but really, that would be my perfect day. A slow morning spent reading, drinking tea, and cuddling with my guy and our kitties, followed by a sunny afternoon outdoors, trekking through the woods, pushing ourselves up steep climbs, finding hidden waterfalls, and sleeping under the stars. With cake, obviously. You gotta have cake.
When do you feel most creative and alive?
When I’m dissolving into laughter with a good friend, or when I’m genuinely helping someone talk through and move past a block that has been holding them back.
Share a huge goal you are rocking.
My heart is filled with two big goals at the moment - reaching 500,000 downloads with my podcast, which I would love to hit by the end of 2016, and hiking the Oregon section of the Pacific Crest Trail, solo, which I’ll set out to do this August.
If you could get on a plane right now, where are you going?
Eep! I’m actually terrified of flying, so I only do it when absolutely necessary. So let’s say I’m getting in the car to road trip instead, and in that case I’m headed down to the Grand Canyon to hike from rim to rim, which is a total dream of mine.
How do you handle setbacks?
Let’s be honest, no one loves setbacks. We might say cliche things about how “failure makes you stronger!” but we’re lying if we try to pretend that we wouldn’t rather just skip all of that and nail it on the first try. That’s my ego talking, of course. My ego would looooove to nail everything on the first try. But too bad, ego, because that’s not how it works in real life. Obstacles arise, setbacks do in fact set us back, and when I’m being my best self I am able to spend two minutes throwing a tantrum about it (instead of, uh, two weeks) before reassuring myself that growth is born from discomfort and that I will not grow if I do not push myself to overcome setbacks.
How do you come home to yourself?
My morning journaling practice is my rock. Each morning, right after making the bed and pouring myself a cup of loose-leaf peppermint tea, I sit down at my desk and hand-write three pages in my notebook. It’s a sort of mental clearing process for me, to skim away all the bullshit anxiety that’s hovering on the surface of my mind.
The other way for me to come home to myself is through motion, particularly a hard effort done in a gorgeous setting. A tough climb in the middle of a remote and silent hike usually does the trick; there’s no substitute for the endorphins you get after hiking uphill for miles.
What are 3 ways you rock the self LOVE?
To me, the most loving thing I can do is listen to myself in real time, because something that felt loving and nourishing to me last month might not be quite what I need right now. Being okay with the fact that I am not a robot and that my desires and needs change regularly is the most loving way to treat myself.
But of course I do have a few specific go-to self-love practices, which I’m happy to share!
1. Hot baths with lavender Epsom salts. There are very few problems that aren’t made at least a little bit easier after 30 minutes spent soaking in the tub,
2. Reading some fun and dirty erotica, preferably of the bad boy romance genre. Nothing feels quite as indulgent to me as reading exclusively for fun and pleasure.
3. Baking. It’s a mindful activity for me, with the bonus of delicious treats to eat and share at the end!
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