It's Okay to Disappoint People

I grew up in an Iowa farm town of 5,000 people. It's an idyllic place really, with tree-lined brick streets and huge Victorian houses. People often wave at one another just passing on the road. And if you're sick, someone will certainly bring you some homemade chicken noodle soup.

I was raised to care about others. I was raised with strong family values and work ethic. I was also raised to be a major "people pleaser."

I brought this with me wherever I went. Need a ride to the airport? Ask me. Want to move in for free for two months? I'm your girl. 

It never occurred to me to pause. To pause after something was asked of me. To pause before I committed to yet another thing. And the pause is oh-so-necessary.

One of my good friends Janine, a very successful business owner, said to me, "I know that I'm going to disappoint someone every single day and I accept that."

When she said this, which was only a few weeks ago, I'm pretty sure my jaw hit the ground. 

Be okay with disappointing people? How freeing.

Often my fear of letting someone down actually gets in the way of me doing exactly what I need to do. First for myself. For my career. For my family. For my inner circle.

When we consistency let what's urgent or frantic override what's important to us, we are living someone else's life. We practice to prioritize that which is essential to us. 

How can you practice presence and lovingly disappointment someone along the way?

- Mary Beth LaRue